"In order to make progress, one must
leave the door to the unknown ajar.”
― Richard P. Feynman
The Consilient Self
A Whole-Person Approach to Becoming Who You Already Are
THE ONTOLOGICAL APPROACH
THE ONTOLOGICAL APPROACH
How We Thrive: The Art of Being and Becoming.
Thriving isn’t about doing more or checking every box on a list of goals. It’s about understanding the invisible forces that shape how you see the world—and how the world sees you.
We all carry beliefs, values, and assumptions that guide our choices, actions, and even our self-perception. Most of them operate quietly, beneath the surface. Some help us. Some don’t.
Ontological Coaching is less about fixing and more about revealing.
This is where Ontological Coaching begins. It’s not about fixing—it’s about revealing. We explore how your emotions, language, and physical presence shape your experience of reality. Not through endless self-analysis, but by uncovering what’s been running the show—and what’s ready to shift.
Coaching like this often leads to moments where things just click.
Clients often describe this as a feeling of things clicking into place. Like walking into a room you’ve lived in for years and finally noticing the windows—and all the light pouring in.
From that place, change isn’t just another item on a to-do list. It’s part of a deeper shift. That’s what thriving looks like: living in alignment with who you are, in all the messy, beautiful unpredictability of life.
So what makes this approach different? It’s not just ontological—it’s consilient. It draws on the full spectrum of human experience, including mine.
THE POWER OF CONCILIENCE
A Coaching Approach That Brings It All Together
(Or: How a Life That Looked Disconnected Started to Make Sense)
My path into coaching hasn’t exactly followed a straight line. And honestly, for a long time, that bugged me.
I started in figure skating—precision, discipline, the kind of training that wires you to keep going even when everything hurts. Then I swung into acting, where you’re basically asked to throw all that control out the window and just feel. Add in some years running businesses, a long detour through mindfulness and yoga, and eventually, executive coaching.
On paper, it all looked a little… patchwork. Like a resume written by five different people.And for a while, I saw it that way too—interesting experiences, but disconnected.
But over time (and with more than a few stumbles), I started noticing the thread. Each chapter had been asking the same core questions, just in a different voice:
– How do I actually show up for this moment?
– What do I do when things fall apart—or don’t go as planned?
– And how do I become someone I can live with and be proud of, especially when no one’s watching?
Once I saw that thread, everything changed.
What It’s Like to Work With Me
I don’t stick to one method because people aren’t built in one dimension. I draw from ontology, mindfulness, body-based work, neuroscience, and the thousand quiet things life has taught me when I wasn’t looking for a lesson.
We pay attention to how you speak, how you feel, how you hold yourself, and what stories you carry around—sometimes without even knowing it. Not to fix anything. But to see it clearly enough that something new becomes possible.
People sometimes tell me it’s like turning a kaleidoscope. You’re not changing the pieces—just the angle. And suddenly, the whole picture shifts.
The Power of Consilience This word—consilience—is a big one for me. It means bringing together different forms of knowing to get closer to truth. Science, art, introspection, the body, philosophy, language… none of them has the whole answer. But when they come together, things start to make more sense.It’s kind of like building a mosaic. Each tile is beautiful on its own, but when you finally step back and see the full design? That’s when it hits. That’s when you start to feel not just more functional—but more you. Whole. Real. Aligned.
This Work Isn’t About Quick
FixesIt’s not a hack. It’s not a three-step plan. It’s a conversation, a noticing, a way of slowing down just enough to hear what’s been trying to get your attention all along.We connect the dots. We see where you are, where you want to go, and what’s in the way—but not in a heavy, mechanical way. More like discovering there’s a path through the woods you never saw before. One that actually feels like yours.